Thursday 4 August 2011

How not to let annoying people annoy you




Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.- Aristotle

Let’s get one thing very straight: The vast majority of people you meet everywhere are nice, caring and considerate. They go out of their way to be polite, they help if they can and they truly care about the well-being of people around them.

Yes, there are inconsiderate, annoying jerks out there sure, but they are a minority.
there's only because we tend to let annoying people take up more mindspace, making them more visible than their numbers warrant.

so, how you dealing with annoying people?

1. you can walk away!
2. become less angry. =)

1: Staying calm means you don’t do something you regret later
Sometimes when you get really mad, you may end up doing something rash. If you can stay calm, you’re more likely to choose constructive actions.

2: Getting mad often means staying mad
If you get annoyed here and now, that bad mood may last for a long time.

3: When you stay calm, you really annoy those who want to annoy others
If that person is truly out to annoy you, the very best way to annoy them back is to stay cool. Deny them the satisfaction of getting you riled. They hate that.

4: You only harm yourself
Getting annoyed really harms no one but you.

5: Getting annoyed makes it easier to get mad the next time
You start a cycle of anger – which means it takes less and less to set you off.

6: Dreaming of revenge is bad for you
This is certain, that a man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.
- Francis Bacon
7: Getting annoyed makes the memory stronger
Anything you experience while having a strong emotion, will be etched permanently in your mind. This is why some people can remember every little detail of that incident 8 years ago where some jerk cut them off on the highway. The problem is that the memory becomes so strong that it keeps coming back to you and keeps annoying you for years.

8: Instead of getting mad at annoying people – feel sorry for them
Jerks are very often jerks because they feel bad themselves. Hating them is really a waste of time – feel sorry for them instead.

9: Sometimes you’re at fault and blowing up just makes it worse
Sometimes it turns out, that the whole thing is actually your own fault. If you previously blew up at someone, then you look really silly…

10: It’s not about you
Most jerks you will meet are not really out to get you, personally – this is how they treat everyone.

11: It may not be intentional at all
Maybe they have absolutely no idea that they’re annoying you.

12: Losing your temper makes you look bad
Even if you’re in the right in the situation, if you lose your temper you can end up looking silly, petty or unreasonable.

13: Laugh about it
Most workplace jerk behavior is annoying sure, but when you really look at it, it’s mostly pathetic and ridiculous. Laugh at it, rather than get annoyed.

14: Is it a case of projection?
Few things annoy us more than other people displaying the same weaknesses and faults as we fear we have ourselves. If a person really, really ticks you off, maybe that person is just making you think about some weak sides you’d rather not admit you have.

15: Maybe it’s an honest mistake
And most of all: People make mistakes. Don’t read too much into it when people do inconsiderate things. It may simply be an honest mistake.

I want to make one thing very clear: I’m not saying that you should put up with behavior that annoys you. This is not about being meek and humble and never complaining about the mistakes that others make. This is about not getting angry over annoying people, because getting angry is rarely good for you.

by Alexander Kjerulf AKA The Chief Happiness Officer  =)

Thursday 14 July 2011

kebodohan yang ketara.

hey hey hey, biar saya ceritakan tentang seorang budak perempuan yang sangat ermmm buduh. begini bah cerita dia tuh, masa kami (me and my gfs) turun tangga mau p hea, ada this very arrogant girl dengan geng2 dy yang 2x5 juga tu gaya durang. well, macam mean girls lah kunun durang tu bejalan menuruni tangga, trippin model tuh perempuan yang kasut tinggi dia mau entah lah brapa inci tu.... sekali dia turun tiba2 ni yang tedengar bunyi bidaaaa sekali... astagaaaaahhhhh.... dia jatuh rupanya, hahahaha!!!! then kawan sy cakap lah, "dek, lain kali turun tangga hati2 ya" dia bulih lagi jawab "ok bah kak, buat2 xnampak ja k." bukan pa lah tapi style dy jatuh tuh kan macam katun ni, kepala dia di bawah then kaki dia d atas. hahahaha. nampak santut!!!!! goshhhh! i still remembered the color.. hahahaha. then style dia bediri dari jatuh lagi lahhh.. amaaa......! oiiiii nahhhh nampak segala okayyyyy!! hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! XD sorry i cant help it! 

5minit kemudian....

tengah kami otw turun lagi tuh... ngam2 ada jejaka2 bah limpas sana at the same time kawan dia juga... bulih2 ahh dia teriak " oiiiii!!!! TADI BAH KAN, SAYA JATUH NI SANA TANGGA!!!" dari yang xketara (yg diam2) dia jatuh, dia p teriak bah kan kasitau sama kawan dia. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! paluiii ehhh ni girl.

Monday 11 July 2011

WEBCAM

FIRST EXPRESSION 



2ND EXPRESSION


MY DEFAULT PICTURE <3


MORNING FACE.

HAHAHA. TOO MUCH CONTRAST. YUPYUP.


ANOTHER OF ME.

REVOLUTION OF ME.
UPSIDE DOWN :)


Tuesday 5 July 2011

Confessions: 7 reasons why women cheat

You’ve probably heard that men cheat for physical reasons, women for emotional reasons. Sure, there’s some truth to that, but when we asked real women around the country to share why they strayed from their boyfriends, we learned they had a whole host of explanations — from bad kissing to sheer revenge. Read on for the truth about why women have given in to temptation.



Reason #1: There’s no passion

Reason #2: To delay a breakup

Reason #3: Because absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder

Reason #4: To avoid being left out in the cold

Reason #5: To make a break from a bad relationship 

Reason #6: To find that missing piece 

Reason #7: To give him a taste of his own medicine

Wednesday 1 June 2011

ANOTHER DAY WITH AMYY & FRIENDS

    " AMY MADU "


 her name AMY with LOVE. she's sweet,out-going,lil bit crazy. her favs thing to do is take a picture. again. again. again and again. I really enjoy while hang-out with this babe. shares hot gossips and others things. ^^
so many stories to tell but there are still un-written about us. so, still waiting what will happened hahaha. well, i'm kinda suxx writing a story in BI. i rather rojak kan? okey la.



Friday 20 May 2011

SING WITH ME!!!

                                    Nobody’s Perfect – Jessie J Song                  


When I’m nervous I have this thing yeah I talk too much
Sometimes I just can’t shut the hell up
It’s like I need to tell someone anyone who’ll listen
And that’s where I seem to fuck up, yeah
I forget about the consequences, for a minute there I lose my senses
And in the heat of the moment my mouth’s starts going the words start flowing
But I never meant to hurt you, I know it’s time that i learnt to
Treat the people I love like I wanna be loved
This is a lesson learnt , I hate that I let you down and I feel so bad about it
I guess karma comes back around cause now I’m the one that’s hurting yeah
And I hate that I made you think that the trust we had is broken
So don’t tell me you can’t forgive me
Cause nobody’s perfect, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, nobodys perfect
If i could turn back the hands of time
I swear I never would have crossed that line
I should of kept it between us but Jessie went and told the whole world how she’s feeling and oh
So I sit and I realise with these tears falling from my eyes
I gotta change if I wanna keep you forever
Promise that I’m gonna try
But I never meant to hurt you, i know it’s time that i learn to
Treat the people I love like I wanna be loved
This is a lesson learnt and I hate that I let you down and I feel so bad about it
I guess karma comes back around cause now I’m the one that’s hurting yeah
And I hate that I made you think that the trust we had is broken
So don’t tell me you can’t forgive me
Cause nobody’s perfect, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,nobody’s perfect
Im Not a saint no not at all, but what I did it wasn’t cool
But I swear that I’ll never do that again to you
I’m not a saint, no not at all, but what I did it wasn’t cool
but i swear that ill never do that again to you.
I hate that I let you down, and I feel so bad about it
I guess karma comes back around cause now I’m the one that’s hurting yeah
And I hate that I made you think that that the trust we had is broken
So don’t tell me you can’t forgive me
Cause nobody’s perfect, no,
nobody’s perfect